By making the following agreements with yourself, you can experience a new level of freedom, happiness, and love. Miguel Ángel Ruiz (1952) is a Mexican author, writer and lecturer of texts and themes of spirituality, influenced by another great author and thinker, the Peruvian anthropologist Carlos Castaneda (died in 1998). His most influential work is The Four Agreements, and they are based on what Ruiz conveys as Toltec wisdom, a pre-Columbian culture that dominated the highlands of northern Mexico between the 10th and 12th centuries. The original edition was published in 1997 and has sold over 4 million copies. The third agreement describes the issue of making assumptions about how this leads to suffering and why individuals should not participate in their manufacture. Accepting what others think can lead to stress and interpersonal conflict because the person believes that their hypothesis is a representation of the truth. [10] Ruiz believes that one solution to overcome the act of acceptance is to ask questions and ensure that communication between those involved is clear. [9] Individuals can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama by not making assumptions. [1] Things to keep in mind: This is good advice to help you become less responsive, defensive, and need retaliation, but keep it in balance. Although everyone has their biases and there is no true objectivity, by never taking anything personally, you can really limit your ability to see your own negative patterns and biased thoughts and work to develop healthier patterns and lucid thinking. As Mr. Scott Peck in The Road Less Traveled, “Distinguishing the problem from what we are and what we are not responsible for in this life is one of the greatest problems in human existence.” When you accept something, you start from a false base because you believe and assume in advance that you have the absolute truth about something.
Moreover, you stop distinguishing what is an assumption to the point where you take it for granted, since something is real. without even having checked or experienced it. Speak with integrity. Just say what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the sense of truth and love. For example, penetrating gossip, aggressive opinions in meetings or on social media do not lead to virtuous results: on the contrary, you let large amounts of your vital energy flow through what you say, write and even when you think of ideas, through the words you put into them. What you think (and what you say, that is, what you declare) is what you become. Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want.
Communicate with others as clearly as possible to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With a single agreement, you can completely change your life. Can you imagine what happens then? Of course: Apparently, the world is starting to fire thick ammunition at this person. And that`s exactly what happened. I hope this structure will inspire you to take this book, learn a new thing or two, and broaden your perspective. By making a pact with these four key agreements, an individual is able to significantly influence the amount of happiness they feel in their life, regardless of external circumstances. [6] What it entails: This agreement deals with avoiding gossip, lies, empty promises, and other ways we cause problems with our words. Just say what you want to say and realize that you can do harm if you don`t pay attention to what you say. The fourth agreement allows readers to get a better overview of how progress is being made in achieving their life goals. This agreement includes the integration of the first three agreements into everyday life and also the exploitation of their full potential.
[8] It is a question of doing one`s best individually, which is different from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter. Ruiz believes that if you avoid self-judgment and do your best at every moment, you can avoid remorse. [10] By incorporating the first three chords and doing their best in all facets of life, people will be able to live a life without grief and self-loathing. [10] All of this happens because you accept more than you allow yourself to experience to confirm your formed and sustained perception. Assuming something, in terms of intuition or intuition, is not the problem: the problem is when you think you assume it`s true even without having verified or observed it in perspective or compiled information. We are very quick to judge people and accept why they do certain things. We can also assume that our family, friends, and peers know how we feel and what we need. Dare to ask questions and communicate with others as clearly as possible. This way, you avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.
In addition to the book and audiobook, there is also an eBook, a four-color illustrated book, a card game, and an online course. [1] Doing your best always means giving your 100%. 99.9% is not one hundred percent of what you can give. There is a difference. From the day we are born, we grow up making agreements with ourselves based on information and opinions from the family and society. Some consciously and others unconsciously. We continue to live our lives according to the agreements we make with ourselves about who and what we should be. Whether in a professional setting, cultivating a personal relationship, or trying to make the above three deals with yourself, always do your best. So what does it mean to be flawless? It comes from the Latin pecatus, which means “sin” and in the sense “without”, that is, impeccable means “without sin”. The Four Accords©, published in 1997 and sold about 9 million copies. It has been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly a decade. Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life.
But the most important agreements are those we make with ourselves. “The Four Chords” not only gave me the four chords with which I made small positive changes in my life, but the book also helped me understand the process of “domestication” and how that “domestication” shaped my belief systems. Be impeccable in my own words, don`t take things personally, don`t make assumptions and always do my best, these four promises are hard to keep, but once I became aware of these four promises, things changed in a positive direction. In part 2 of this 2-part video, we learn the book of the law that governs our mind and the inner judge that makes us suffer because we never live up to our “image of perfection.” All our normal tendencies are lost in the process of domestication, and we begin to look for what we have lost. We seek freedom because we are no longer free; we seek happiness because we are no longer happy; We seek beauty because we no longer believe that we are beautiful. .
